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When looking to get involved in the BDSM lifestyle you must understand at least basic goals and motivation. Just as with any position you might be hiring for, you need to learn how to create goals in order to mold them into your ideal slave and partner. When training a slave the question of how to motivate a slave is one that many dominants struggle with, but there are a number of basic things you can do to get the process started.

Many dominants want to believe that their power over a slave is all encompassing and that they merely have to say something in order to make it happen. If only this were the case. While there are some willing slaves that are able to follow orders and are happy to follow any orders you give them, most slave and master relationships do start off with a lot of miscommunication and frustration – especially when the ideas of goals and motivations aren’t addressed from the start of training a slave.

Even a dominant partner needs to learn what will work best for their slave training. Because all slaves will have their own set of needs and personalities, you need to be ready to formulate a plan of training that incorporates the goals that you want your slave to achieve in order to satisfy your needs. And you also need to figure out what kinds of motivation will allow your slave to want to reach these goals in an efficient manner.

The goals that you set are as individual when training a slave are between you and your submissive. What you might consider to be an important goal may not be something that is important to another Dom/me – but that’s not something you need to worry about. Your goals are going to begin with determining what you need from your slave on a regular basis. Is your slave going to be someone that is simply a service slave or perhaps a sexual slave? By defining their role in your life, you will be able to create clear goals they need to achieve in order to satisfy you.

For example when training a slave you might want to create a list of the things you expect your slave to do for you. They might be able to read this list ahead of time in order to know what will be expected of them in your relationship and also to give their opinion about anything that is not reasonable to them or unrealistic for them at this time. This initial agreement stage will happen before you open up the dungeon, so to speak.

Once these goals are established, you will then need to determine what will make a slave listen to your instructions – it can vary greatly from one slave to another. For example when training a slave some submissives respond to punishments, while others look forward to punishments and that doesn’t motivate them to complete the tasks as directed. If disobeying gets them what they want, then they will simply continue to do so.

In these situations, you need to realize this early in the relationship and then make sure they aren’t getting punished in ways they find pleasurable. For example, these kinds of slaves may need to be ignored or made to do tasks that they don’t like in order to show them that when they don’t obey, they are going to have to do things they don’t like.

Motivation can also be a system of rewards for the slave when they do a good job. Orgasms are the easy way to entice a slave to obey, but as are services for you to further enhance their role as a slave to you.

When you are training a slave, you need to approach this work as any other job. By creating a clear set of goals and motivating in the appropriate ways, you will be able to create a slave that you can be proud of.

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