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For many people, penetration is the ultimate turn-on because it is the most intimate act we can engage in with another person. Different positions bring some variety to a very basic mating act. Women are much less interested in different positions. Rear entry can be more explicit and erotic.

Positions for intercourse include woman-on-top and doggy style with the man behind. Different positions for intercourse are popular with men because they allow men more explicit views of their thrusting action. Couples experiment for a while but they usually resume missionary style intercourse. This position involves least work for the woman and gives the man the best position to control the stimulation he obtains from thrusting.

Quickies can be erotic if used in different venues. Quickies often involve a standing position even if only rear entry bent over a table or in the shower. The woman can support herself against an object (a tree, a table or the side of the shower) or lean over at 90 degrees and rest face down. If a woman usually moves her hips during intercourse (to assist with penile stimulation and give a more proactive sense of participation) it can be pleasant to have the excuse to do absolutely nothing. A man’s need to ejaculate into an orifice is clear and may cause a woman to feel like a receptacle for semen. If a couple has a positive relationship, the rewards can go both ways.

Some men fantasize about having intercourse outdoors or in unusual places. More proactive couples change the venue for sex on an ad hoc basis. Some people enjoy the risk of being caught or observed in venues such as on public transport or in the cinema. Some people like to watch and others like to be watched. Dogging is popular in the UK, which involves couples having sex (often in the car) in woods that are designated for the purpose so that others (primarily men) can watch. Others may prefer the privacy and seclusion of venues such as a private garden or a remote rural location.

Some couples may enjoy dressing up or using fantasy role play to play act sexual scenarios. Some couples are attracted to tickling, spanking and other kink activities. It’s all part of the fun. What appeals depends on personality and a person’s fantasies. Much of this activity is purely sensual for a woman.

A man can tell a woman what he is thinking as he stimulates her from behind. A man should talk in terms of urges, domination and possession rather than the graphic detail that men enjoy. A man can stroke the area between a woman’s thighs (from clitoris through to anus). He can hold her butt cheeks apart before and as he penetrates her. He can use a hand to hold a woman firmly down as he dominates her (only with her permission!).

A man should change his rhythm of thrusting and depth of penetration by alternating between teasing the glans of his penis in the entrance of his lover’s vagina (the most sensitive part) and using longer deeper thrusts. A man can use his body weight to provide a sense of domination. When a man thrusts deeply the base of his penis thumps against her vulva and perineum (towards the anus). The woman may enjoy mild sensations of arousal, especially when her partner’s groin grinds into her labia and clitoris.

A woman may enjoy the eroticism of being dominated (from the whole body contact and his weight) and the psychological satisfaction of being penetrated (from knowing that his penis is deep inside her body). Intercourse provides little internal sensation but a woman can feel external pressure. A man can demonstrate affection by kissing and caressing her.

BDSM involves the use of physical restraints that limit a person’s range of motion and play-acting of submissive and dominant roles by consenting adults. To increase safety, couples use a safe word so that the person in the submissive role can stop all activity. They also discuss in advance what they agree to be the limits on allowed activities. A less risky version involves using only mild bondage and a blindfold to make sex slightly more mysterious and heighten the sensations of being penetrated and touched by a lover.

Women often conclude that men lack imagination when it comes to sex. This is because intercourse is a relatively mundane repetitive act for a woman whereas for a man, penetration represents the most erotic situation imaginable. This is natural given men’s biological sex drive. Many men have no need for fantasies of any kind because intercourse is sufficient for their sexual needs. For women, sex is a social rather than an erotic experience. They hope for a lover with sensitivity to their needs, which are more psychological than physical. Women enjoy sensual teasing, sexual anticipation and feeling desired. This all takes time, which is difficult for a younger man. Older men, who are less acutely aroused, have the luxury of time to enjoy their own arousal and to spend time pleasuring a lover.

Just as in the human species, it is the male among practically all of the mammals which initiates the ultimate genital union. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)

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